Talking, laughing, loving, breathing, fighting, fucking, crying, drinking, riding, winning, losing, cheating, kissing, thinking, dreaming.

Boredom lead to me taking this quiz on Facebook. Very pleased by the results (after re-taking it when internet gods told me I was Jenny)

Today I found out something very interesting about someone very close to me. A couple of months ago my friend met a guy on a night out which led to a brief affair between the two of them. After said night there were the standard ‘was-this-just-a-one-night-stand- or-will-it-eventually-lead-to-something-more’- discussions. Cynics would say that these situations never lead to anything other than an awkward encounter if you ever met this person again, however personal experiences has taught me that it usually is a lot more complicated than that. Sometimes a casual affair is best to be thrown away like yesterday’s rubbish and look at such sporadic adventures as something that just adds more excitement to our everyday lives. However, it’s also very common that one night stands leads to a far more complex set of emotional relations. In the case of my friend, the one night stand didn’t last any longer than to the next morning, although this was not necessarily intended by either of them. But days went and she engaged in another sort of relationship with this illusive stranger, one that wasn’t physical at all. She was texting with this guy, and both of them seemed willing to repeat the drunken night’s antics. After disappearing from the realms of Brighton this guy kept the possibility of this relationship alive for months, without ever actually seeing my friend in person. The texting continued until very recently when this guy decided to break up with her. Keep in mind that since the night they shared together a couple of months ago, they haven’t actually seen each other. This left my friend, and me, very puzzled. How is it that we can have relationships with people we don’t even see without even knowing about it? Furthermore, how can someone you’ve only met once dump you over a text message? My friend only thought of the texting as a way of keeping the option of dating available, but this guy apparently felt that their relationship was getting too serious. It seems that one night stands can have implications even though a physical relationship is avoided afterwards. We don’t just have to worry about the awkward face to face meeting the next morning; we also have to worry about how modern technologies transform a trivial night of fun into a relationship you don’t even know you’re in.